When the pain ceased, love, faith and knowing swept in.

In our culture we place a great emphasis on "the soul mate" as being the other half of ourselves. In truth a soul mate is most likely someone with whom you've experienced past lives with and have created a soul bond. It could be a lover, a friend, a child, or even a pet, but if there is a calling in your soul for a missing piece of yourself, it just may be your twin flame you are seeking.

The more knowledge and enlightenment you can gain on the subject, the better off you will be when the extraordinary happens and either that one person you've looked for all your life finally arrives, or you recognize the person already in your life for what they truly are.

Wherever you are on the journey, the dream is to have the fullest union with your twin possible. We all want to be ignited, bonded and harmonized with our missing piece.

I'm often asked why, either ourselves, or our twins are so routinely already involved in another romantic relationship when the universe finally brings us together. That question

The Twin Flame Separation Cycle

Originallythis article was sent to me on Facebook and I posted it here because I felt it had such good information, however the origniator of the article posted in comments where her site is actually located. Now that I have that info, I feel it only right to send you to her link to read the entire work, so here it is. It is a very good post and I would encourage you to read the entire thing. 

I know this cycle is the most painful part of our TF journey and seems to be the thing we struggle with the most and that struggle in turn can damage the very thing we are trying to save.

The 8 reasons this author gives for the constant cycle of coming together and tearing apart are as follows -again read the entire article with the full explanation at the link above.

1. You aren't ready.
2. You haven't reached unconditional love
3. You feel threatened
4. You reconnect for reassurance
5. You reconnect to heal one another
6. You must balance your karma
7. You are destined for other relationships
8. You need to focus on your own awakening

A Twin Flame Allegory

I was bleeding, pierced through with a sword and for months and months I bled, I cried, I felt I was dying. I tried to adjust my position so the sword wouldn't press into my soul as hard. I sought professional help to remove the sword, but no one understood how deep the sword penetrated, they didn't understand it's force. No one knew what to do with it. Everyone just looked at me as though I was whole, when I was not. They looked like it either wasn't even there, or like it was meant to be there and could not understand why I was pale, weak, immobile.

In time, I made some peace with the sword and it's presence. I passed up many opportunities where the sword's appearance would be destructive or too startling. I found ways to clean up the blood that oozed from my skin twenty-four seven so most would never see it. I found ways to dress to hide the protuberance. I found ways to laugh in spite of the pain. I found ways to move so that the blood flowed slower from my body, but all the while, I questioned the sword.

I cried and blamed the sword for killing me. I asked why. I begged the sword

Loving Fearlessly

I have long struggled with relationships. I give too much. I am NOT one to fight, so I am often the one walked over.

We are broken, all of us, and when we let down our walls, someone is going to hurt us, it's what we do to one another, intentionally sometimes, but often just out of our own pain or ignorance.

I'm adopting this new plan with all my relationships. I have been working on this for months and I believe I may have finally come to a resolution for myself on the steps I need to take, to be in a relationship without fear of hurt and rejection.

    1. Recognize I am being treated wrongly and understand that this is not all right.
    2. Release my emotions from the equation and decide what, if any, is my own fault and make amends for my part.
    3. Even if I have my own blame in the situation, it is still right to go to the person and assert appropriately why I am hurt and how they have offended me.
    4. Express a deep, sincere desire for reconciliation.
    5. When I have done all I can to right the situation, don't wait petulantly for them to make it right or respond in kind, recognize they will most likely not and truly release it. Give it to god and trust that he keeps all records of wrongs, I don't have to. He is the ultimate vindicator and righter of wrongs. Let him decide what if anything more is to be done.
    6. Balance and re-harmonize my energy with love so that I can move forward without being derailed for any amount of time.

This won't be easy, and my petulant side won't like it, but I am going to work hard on this because I truly want to love and be loved without fear. Pray for me if you are so inclined, good thoughts and energy also always appreciated. :)

Favorite Anais Nin Quotes

If you do not breathe through writing, if you do not cry out in writing, or sing in writing, then don't write, because our culture has no use for it. ~ Anais Nin 

The only abnormality is the incapacity to love ~ Anais Nin 

I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman. ~ Anais Nin 

Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death. ~ Anais Nin 

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage ~ Anais Nin

How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself. ~ Anais Nin

I will not be just a tourist in the world of images, just watching images passing by which I cannot live in, make love to, possess as permanent sources of joy and ecstasy. ~ Anais Nin

The personal life deeply lived always expands into truths beyond itself. ~ Anais Nin

When we blindly adopt a religion, a political system, a literary dogma, we become automatons. We cease to grow. ~ Anais Nin

The role of a writer is not to say what we all can say, but what we are unable to say. ~ Anais Nin

Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born. ~ Anais Nin

Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish it's source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings. ~ Anais Nin

 

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.” ~Anais Nin